Debridement

You're Unwanted

I learnt the term ‘debridement’ when I was healing myself and my wounds. Debridement is a medical term which means “surgical removal of foreign matter and dead tissue from a wound“, according to dictionary.com.

 

When a wound is in the process of healing, there are skin that will dry up and became detached from your wound but still hangs on to the other part of your good skin, which is dead skin. I used to think that keeping these skin will cover the open wound up but it doesn’t as it kind of flap about to reveal the open wound. If I apply any medicine or moisturise the wound area, these dead skin takes up moisture or the medicine, hence I need to remove them so my wound can get the moisture and medicine instead. Sometimes these dead skin causes the wound to become infected as it doesn’t even protect the open wound. It’s basically useless.

 

Upon daringly removing those dead skin, dead tissue and dried yellow discharge from my wound, revealing a very raw wound where sometimes I can see the whitish flesh area in my skin, it was then that my wounds especially on my feet started to heal. My feet has been slowly but surely healing and improving, just some parts of my left feet is still not healing that well. I can proudly say that I have removed the second dressing from my right feet for weeks now and it can sustain with primary dressing from my hydrogel medicine.

 

So just like a physical wound on your body, there are matters in your life which might be troubling you and you should debride what or who that is causing it. Get rid of the unwanted in your lives. You’ll be happier that way.

 

You're Unwanted

 

I Don’t Need To Deal With Your Shit

From my post yesterday, you saw how the drink caused me allergies and creates the disgusting sourish sweaty smell after drinking it. I have one of this drink in a different flavour that has been sitting in my fridge because my sister gave it to me during Christmas about 5 years ago and my allergies were more severe that time so I didn’t want to drink it. I have no problems with not having something if I don’t want to, even if it has been in the fridge and staring at me every time I open the fridge, which is everyday and a few times a day.

 

Unwanted apple cider

 

Only when I want to, I will drink it. It’s because I can drink alcohol after testing, that I was ready to try this cider at that event mentioned in my previous post but it’s definitely not suitable. As for that cider sitting in the fridge, I definitely won’t drink it and giving it back to my sister. After so many years and I’m not even going to look at the expiry, it can be thrown away or whatever that should be done with it, I don’t even give a shit. It causes me allergies and I don’t want it.

 

This shows that I really do have discipline. I realised my discipline is in-built and it comes out when I think I need to be, without me realising. I don’t know why I always think I’m the least disciplined person. I guess it’s when I don’t want to do or don’t like something, or maybe I think I need to have some fun, then I won’t be disciplined. Even my favourite beer, Heineken that I got previously is just sitting there in a carton and I don’t drink it because I want to heal my health first. Then my favourite Rosé champagne is also sitting here in the cupboard, I just keep it and let it age with value. I don’t simply drink it. You can’t force me to do anything that I don’t want and especially if it harms me, it can really fuck off. At this age, I already know that whatever people in the past have forced me to do, I just won’t do it well unless I want to do it. It’s not that path that I want, then I won’t thrive in it.

 

Delayed gratification, I have no problem I can see. However, don’t just buy into this concept blindly because I have seen many opportunities go by, thinking that it’s better to wait but hell no, years go by,  you age and you don’t get anything out of your wait. Like Confucius’ statement that goes something like : “eat when hungry, sleep when sleepy”. Don’t complicate your life. Some matters can wait, some matters don’t delay gratification because you won’t get any enjoyment or benefit after some time.

 

It’s not being stuck up, I just have standards and  I’m better than just accepting shit and nonsense from others. Especially when I can just get rid of people that’s basically useless and irritating or have cause harm to me, without any feelings, I don’t have any problems with not wanting to use or consume anything that will cause me allergies. I’m bringing bitchy back. No, it doesn’t mean I want to bring a female dog or a human woman that’s bitchy back; I am that bitch. I’m not going to accept people giving me shit for no reason or be mistreated and expect me to be understand. I always have that bitchy side to me. I don’t go around being bitchy 24/7 but sometimes that bitchy side needs to be shown to some people so they don’t think they can step all over me just because I can be nice. That being said, I don’t need anymore bitches near me as bitchy and bitchy just don’t go together. Some people just get along well, some just don’t.

 

There are some people that are just so unpleasant to deal with, I would rather not. It’s going to make it futile having to deal with people you can’t get along with, it will make you not like your work or business and that will defeat the purpose of doing what you want to do in the first place. Gotta do the Marie Kondo‘s way of cleaning by having more of what “brings you joy” and getting rid of what don’t. Some say that running a small business, you have to be nice. It’s not true. I came across a few not nice business people who are still doing well in their business. Maybe they have became unpleasant due to protecting their business or maybe they were just born not nice. There are many nice business people as well that I have met. One thing is for sure – they need to speak up and make their stand especially when they/their business is being affected. No time to play pretentious nice. It’s fine being diplomatically straightforward but when some people are just not polite themselves, then don’t expect me to be.

 

I end this post with my Mummy’s healthy rice and dishes. She cooked herbal chicken dish today. The sauce that comes out of steaming the chicken is super sweet and delicious, and definitely healthy. Definitely better than shit.

 

Mummy’s herbal steamed chicken

Discovering My Liking For Bossa Nova

I have to admit age is catching up with me, mentally that is. I recently find that I like listening to bossa nova music and I’m playing it non-stop on the stereo. I used to find this kind of music boring and a bit too laid back for my liking. I still like my energetic, pumping music but I’m enjoying the chilled, relaxing path.

 

It’s the kind of music you would normally hear at lounges, the kind where the lights are slightly dimmed and you have soft, cushy sofa and seats with pillows for you to comfortably lay your back on and your drink is served in a tall glass with some pretty garnishing at the side of the glass, then placed nicely on a glass table with a coaster beneath it. The kind of place where you will have a drink or two to chill out, like you don’t have a worry in the world, don’t even have to carry out a conversation with anyone and just listen to the music. What comes to mind is usually poshy hotel lounges.

 

It was on a night when I stayed up late to work on some event items customisation and I had on my earphones with some pop music playing. I like to put on music and stick my earphones into my ears so that I drown out any sounds around me. I don’t like noise especially when I’m focusing on work or creating something. I used to like working with electronic dance music on when I’m sewing and doing some creative work with cloths and sometimes I put on some classical pieces. I got bored listening to pop, so I listened to this version of “How Deep Is Your Love” by Kelly Rowland and Michael Buble. I heard this song at a wedding reception recently but didn’t know who sang it, so I searched online and found out it was these 2 singers, and I was hooked on this song. A more romantic rendition which would be suitable for weddings. I like the original “How Deep Is Your Love” song by the Bee Gees but this version has a more romantic feel to it.

 

 

So after listening to this song, I was just scrolling for the next song to play on YouTube and saw Olivia Ong‘s “A Girl Meets Bossa Nova 2” album. I heard her singing before and kinda liked it, so I decided to listen to it. That was how I found out about bossa nova genre. I’ve been listening to it while I work and also play it constantly for leisure. So relaxing.

 

Currently liking and playing this one :